The Art of Becoming: Letting Grief and Joy Coexist

There are moments when life brings us to our knees,

and somehow, even there —

we feel the sun on our face.

Grief and joy,

sorrow and laughter,

ache and aliveness —

they do not wait their turn.

They do not arrive neatly, one after the other.

They weave.

They hold hands.

They sing in strange harmony.

And learning to let them —

to not force clarity where there is only complexity —

is part of the art of becoming.

The Both/And

We are taught to choose.

To sort life into neat categories: good/bad, light/dark, healed/broken.

But the deeper I go into this work — this life —

the more I see that the soul speaks in paradox.

It is possible to feel deep gratitude and heavy grief in the same breath.

To long for something and still know peace.

To be healing and still hurting.

To be radiant and wild, whole and unraveling.

You do not need to be one thing.

You are vast enough to hold it all.

Holding Space for the Full Spectrum

When I hold space — for others or myself —

I do not try to fix.

I do not try to soothe away the sorrow,

or rush joy into the room.

I let the body speak.

I let the tears fall beside the laughter.

I let silence sit beside sound.

Because presence does not require resolution.

It simply asks for reverence.

A Gentle Invitation

If you're in a season where everything feels tender —

if your joy has an ache at its edges,

or your grief carries a strange sweetness —

you are not doing it wrong.

You are simply alive.

Here are a few invitations to honour the both/and:

Place your hand on your heart and ask: What is here with me today? Don't correct it. Just notice.
Light a candle for both what is being lost and what is being born.
Write a letter from one emotion to the other: what would grief say to joy? What would joy say back?
Let the tears come when you laugh. Let the laughter surprise you when you cry. Let it all move through.

Becoming is not a straight line.

It's a spiral, a dance, a wave.

You are not behind.

You are not broken.

You are becoming —

in all the ways only you can.

So let it all be here.

Let the grief speak.

Let the joy rise.

Let your whole self be welcomed in.

This is not a mistake.

This is life —

full, holy, and unbearably beautiful.

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